“Do everything readily and cheerfully – no bickering, no second-guessing allowed! (Philippians 2:14 MSG)
The Greek word for complaining literally means, “one who is discontent with his lot in life.” So as you read this post ask yourself, “Am I discontent?”
Ella Wheeler Wilcox, in her poem Solitude, said, “Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep and you weep alone.” The same can be said for complaining. If you are a chronic complainer, you may want to rethink that attribute.
The problem with too much complaining is it becomes less effective over time. Are you really unhappy with every situation you are presented with? It could be a sign that you have other adverse situations going on with your life.
You need to choose your battles, as they say. If you have several situations that you are unhappy about, which ones do you really want to focus on changing for the better? It will be much easier for you to get your point across if you do limit the frequency of your complaining.
Sometimes complaining can be warranted, but usually, should be done regarding offering up alternatives. Be part of the solution and not part of the problem. If you only have a complaint, then how is that helping solve the problem? Presenting solutions will show that you want to participate and have a stake in solving the problem. The best approach is to offer up multiple solutions to problems whenever possible. This will get people on your side.
If you are one who complains a lot, try to take a step back and think about others who are chronic complainers as well. How did you react to their constant stream of complaints? Did you think to yourself that the person should try to help solve the problem? If you answered yes to this last question, this is how others are thinking when you complain.
LIFEframe thinking points
- How can we keep from over complaining?
- Do you agree that complaining is unhealthy if so why?
- What can we do instead of complaining?
- How can we build our faith to allow God to control the situations we are unhappy with?